Wednesday, December 28, 2016

Self - Care Playlist




“Music is a moral law. It gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind,
 flight to the imagination, and charm and gaiety to life and to everything.” -Plato

As a coach I’m always telling people how important self-care is, to take time each day for you. Even if it’s only 10 minutes, taking time to unwind and let your mind be at ease can change your whole mood. One way I do self-care is through music; music has always been such an important part of my life, it’s been my way for me to escape even if only for a song. I thought I’d share some songs that I listen to when I’m in need of some comfort whether I’ve had a bad day or my self confidence is low, these songs have always helped me through. Bare with me folks, some of these songs may not be the ones you’d typically listen to but give them a try, listen, smile, and always dance!


1. Private Party-India Arie
2. There’s Hope-India Arie
3. Video-India Arie
4. The Man- Aloe Blacc
5. Sunday Candy-Chance the Rapper
6. Keep Ya Head Up-Tupac
7. No Other Love-Uncommon Kings
8. Superwoman- Alicia Keys
9. Bruno Mars-Perm
10. Right to be Wrong- Joss Stone
11. Gossip Folks-Missy Elliott
12. Man in the Mirror- Michael Jackson
13. Where is the Love- Black Eyed Peas
14. They Don’t Want Music- Black Eyed Peas
15. Crooked Smile- J Cole
16. Every Ghetto, Every City- THE Lauryn Hill
17. Schoolin Life-Beyoncé
18. Izzo- Jay Z
19. I Can-Nas
20. Concrete Schoolyard- Jurassic Five

With love,

Annie Kipcak

Stay Up 


Tuesday, November 29, 2016

5 Goals to Accomplish Before 2017




1.     Get into the holiday spirit. It doesn’t matter which holiday you chose, or if you celebrate all of them. December is packed with days of celebration. So instead of worrying about who you’re going to see, what gifts you need to get, what you’re going to wear, and that never ending to-do list; get out and do something fun.
·      How to: Is there a holiday lights display in your town? How about a seasonal show, ballet, or event? Or stay in, have a movie marathon, bake cookies, host a holiday party! New Year’s Eve brings even more opportunity to get out and have fun. End 2016 in high spirits!

2.     Stay in touch with friends and family. This time of year we’re inundated with holiday cards, family pictures on Facebook, and reminders of the people we care about. Unfortunately, this can also be a reminder of all the people I haven’t talked to as much as I wanted, or those I’ve fallen out of touch with. I know my life is very busy, and I am so grateful that my friends and family let me periodically disappear. So, before the year is up, find everyone you want to maintain relationships with, and make that happen.
·      How to: This could be a simple phone call or text just to say “Hello- I’ve been thinking about you- Happy Holidays!” Or invite someone to that great New Year’s Eve party you planned after reading the first goal. I love sending out quick holiday cards, just pick up a couple from the store and send those out- quick, easy, not too expensive, but it has a big impact!
·      Disclaimer: You do not have to stay in touch with everyone! In fact there are people that you might feel obligated to, but you don’t want to continue that relationship- so don’t! Only continue relationships that you feel are a positive force and bring strength.

3.     Spend time alone- without your phone, computer, tv, or any other screen. Take a day to really disconnect from everyone and everything. I know this sounds somewhat contradictory to our last goal, but this is important. Taking this time to just be you, let’s us recharge and re-evaluate how we’re doing. Being comfortable alone is a life skill that we need to keep practicing- being comfortable with ourselves makes us more comfortable with others.
·      How to: Go on a walk, take a nice long shower or bath, go on a drive. I find that leaving my environment to be alone is best because it really forces me to notice my solitude and find comfort and peace in that.

4.     Get rid of what’s causing you stress. I do not mean, quit your job or buy a new car. We don’t all have the luxury to do that, but go for it if that’s what you need. So, my room is cluttered, not messy or disorganized but cluttered. Everything has a place, but there are too many things in that place. So, to get rid of my stress at home, I am going to get rid of a bunch of my clutter! But this goal doesn’t have to be about actually removing things, it can be mending or re-organizing too, the goal here is to start 2017 without this stress looming over us as we set new years resolutions.
·      How to: I already gave the example of de-cluttering and cleaning things that need it, like my car, or organizing the stack labeled “to be filed” in my office. But other things that stress me out are all the gifts I need to buy, so I’m getting a head start and my goal is to be done before the 20th this year. (I confess I normally do a lot of last minute shopping) I have a lot of work to do as the year draws to an end, so I’ve created weekly goals and schedules for completing all of this. For me, having a clear plan of how to tackle all the chaos relaxes me, even if I have to fall back to plans C, D, or E. Another important part of this planning is setting boundaries for myself and others. This is a clear understanding of what I can handle, and being comfortable with that. For example, the goals I set for work are realistic and reflect the time commitment to family and friends during the holiday season.
5.     Set goals for 2017. If you’ve completed goals 1-4 you are ending 2016 in high spirits, you’re staying in touch with those you care about, you’ve taken inventory of your year and pruned out some stress. Now what? Moving forward how are you going to keep this up? What didn’t go well in 2016 that you want to change in 2017? What can you change, and what are you willing to? Answering these questions are half the battle but next is making an action plan. There is no change without follow through.
·      How to: So a goal is to exercise more, so you’ll join a gym. But knowing yourself, how realistic is this? What’s going to happen, what might be some barriers to you completing this goal? Then make a plan to counteract those barriers. For example, sign up for a personal trainer that holds you to appointments, or sign up for classes that have specific times that you have to pay for in advance. Want to stay organized? Great. but how? Setting goals without action plans is like packing for a vacation without knowing the destination: you might be ok, but the trip might be more enjoyable if you planned ahead.




Tuesday, October 11, 2016

OCD Awareness Week 2016

An Introduction to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder


The week of October 9-15th has been established as the International OCD Awareness Week for 2016!

What is OCD?

According to the International OCD Foundation:

“Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) causes severe anxiety in those affected. OCD involves both obsessions and compulsions that take a lot of time and get in the way of important activities the person values.”

Research shows that OCD affects 2.3% of people ages 18-54.

In the United States about 3.3 million people struggle with this disorder.



Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) may show itself in many different ways with varying degrees of intensity. It is important to be educated on the different types of OCD and what actually constitutes as having a disorder from having a mere tendency for neatness and organization. Have you ever heard someone say something like this: “I’m just really OCD about my laundry”? Being educated about OCD means not applying terms meant for a serious disorder to a simple preference in lifestyle. It is easy to use such language when talking about someone’s character, such as: “Oh, he/she is so OCD about that kind of stuff”, but the first step in raising awareness about mental illness, is to refrain from throwing around labels and doing some research on the matter first, by doing this we can decrease stigmas and biased opinions about mental disorders! The more educated we are, the more capable we are to be understanding, compassionate and empathetic to our fellow humans!


Obsessions and Compulsions

Obsessions are characterized by frequently occurring thoughts, urges, or mental images. These obsessions can be incredibly disturbing to the individual, and may take up a considerable amount of mental energy.

Compulsions become a way for the individual to neutralize, or control these obsessions, by partaking in repetitive rituals. While carrying out rituals may reduce the anxiety and distress for the time being, often time the sufferer feels trapped by these compulsions, which can lead to increased obsessions and thus increased compulsions.

This unfortunately becomes a vicious cycle.

OCD can be very time consuming and extremely frustrating, here are some examples of what it might feel like to struggle with this disorder:




OCD Types

OCD commonly presents itself in at least one of five different types, however many people struggle with more than one type of OCD.

1.    Experiencing a contamination obsession and feeling the compulsion to clean constantly.
2.  Dealing with anxiety over possible harm and feeling a compulsion to check for the potential 
        source of harm. Such as being constantly worried about leaving the garage door open and 
        repeatedly driving past your house to check.
3. Having intrusive thoughts and mental compulsions. Experiencing unwanted thoughts may cause 
        the individual to feel extreme guilt, and thus causing him/her to indulge in mental rituals for 
        banishing such thoughts.
4. Organization and order compulsions. This type of OCD causes the individual to spend   
        considerable time and mental energy on rearranging things around the house (or elsewhere) in 
        order for them to be “perfect.” For example, constantly organizing the food pantry by food 
        groups in perfect symmetry, and feeling unwell when it is not organized. Sometimes these 
        compulsions are done because the individual feels if he/she does not do them, something 
        harmful will happen to them  or loved ones. 
5. Hoarding. This type of OCD is characterized by feeling the need to collect things, even though 
        they are no longer useful, and refraining from throwing away old, seemingly unnecessary, things
        away.


It is important to note that these obsessions and compulsions may prevent an individual from partaking in day to day activities such as going to work or school.




Support

 Support groups cannot replace personal therapy, but they are an important step in personal recovery and can truly make a difference. Feeling community support and compassion is a great motivator and reminder to keep going forward with your recovery! Our goal is to eliminate isolation and stigmas surrounding mental health illness. Meeting others who are struggling with similar problems can help eliminate the feelings of loneliness, isolation, and shame, and is also a great reminder that you are NOT alone. Please use these resources to help yourself, or others who are in need of support.

With understanding, kindness, and support. We stand together to promote healthy recovery, mental health awareness, and being stigma free!

Resources for Support:










Madison OCD Support Group
Contact: Holly or Ruth Ann
                 Madison, Wisconsin 53562
Meeting day and time: Second Monday of every month, 7:00-9:00 pm
Open To: Adults with OCD
Fee: Free
Professionally-led
Additional Information: This group is professionally facilitated and follows the G.O.A.L. model. It is not a substitute for therapy but is based on behavioral therapy principles. The facilitator will screen interested potential members for appropriateness for this group.


Waukesha OCD Support Group
Contact: Arthur Collins
                121 Wisconsin Avenue
                 Waukesha, Wisconsin 53186
Venue: First United Methodist Church,-Waukesha
Meeting day and time: 2nd Wednesday and 4th Thursday of the month
Open To: Those with OCD, families and friends ages 15 and above
Fee: Free
Additional Information: Group is sponsored by First United Methodist Church, Waukesha, as an outreach service to all in the community. The address given is the address for the church. There are two facilitators, one an RN and the second and OCD sufferer. There are no psychological professionals supporting the group. The group has been in existence for more than 15 years and has helped/guided many group members to seek professional care and be successfully treated.